Question by Niamh: Daughter’s pierced ears – do you think my ex is just being awkward or does he have a genuine grievance with me?

My youngest daughter got her ears pierced for her sixth birthday. At the time, my oldest daughter didn’t want hers done.

On Saturday we went shopping, and she spied a pair of earrings she really liked, they are kind of like a similar style to a belly ring (although with a much thinner, more circular and smaller bar), and when worn give the appearance of a tiny small silver ball stud in the ear with a flower hanging on the bar below the ear. She remarked that they would be worth having her ears pierced for and asked if she could get them.

I didn’t consult with my ex. I didn’t see the point, since he agreed to our then 5 year old ‘s request to get them for her 6th birthday, I was sure that our almost 9 year old having hers done would be a non-issue.

He says that with our youngest it was different because she had wanted them continuously for a long time. He says I should have made our oldest take a “time-out” for a couple of days to give her a chance to think it through.

He also doesn’t like the idea of her wearing the earrings she’ll change into after they heal. He has the notion in his head that, even though they were designed to be worn in ears, kids wearing “body jewellery” sends out the wrong message – and he’s worried that if she is allowed to wear “body jewellery” style earrings, she’s going to want the belly ring to match.

Best answer:

Answer by hstngirl
You probably should have asked her to wait a few days, just to make sure, so I can understand him being grumpy. But what’s done is done. And no REAL big deal… he’ll get over it and is probably more upset that he wasn’t involved with the decision.

As for the body jewelry, what the heck are earrings? Jewelry you wear on your body. Hmmm. As long as your rules about piercings beyond ears are clear and firm there shouldn’t be an issue.

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